Elisa Pearmain, LMHC

Through extensive research, training sessions and clinical practice I have developed my own methods for helping individuals and couples to heal from wounds and let go of grievances.
My three favorite definitions of forgiveness are:
“Forgiveness is the act of untying oneself from thoughts and feelings that bind you to the offense committed against you.” Katherine M. Piderman, Ph.D. Mayo Clinic
“Forgiveness is a way of life that gradually transforms us from being helpless victims of our circumstances to being powerful and loving co-creators of our reality.” Robin Cassarjian, Forgiveness. A Bold Choice for a Peaceful Heart.
“Forgiveness is the peace and understanding that come from blaming that which has hurt you less, taking the life experience less personally, and changing your grievance story.” “Forgive for Good” by Fred Luskin
Forgiveness is not about condoning someone's behavior or even necessarily seeking reconciliation. Forgiveness is about letting go of the wounds that bind us to the injury, letting go of our identity as victim, understanding and moving beyond our anger, and in most cases forgiving ourselves for being in a position to be hurt in the first place.
Forgiveness involves a process of looking at a situation from more angles, forgiving ourselves, grieving our losses and seeing ourselves as better in our process to move on. The forgiveness process can take minutes, days, or years, and can be done about someone who has died. People often experience personal and/or spiritual growth as they learn to forgive themselves, others and God.
To have an online consultation about a situation that you would like to find healing contact me at therapy@elisapearmain.com. An online consultation may not be covered by insurance.
To access more information about my CD, Forgiveness: Telling our Stories in New Ways, click here, or go to http://wisdomtales.com/forgiveness.html.
"The holiest of all the spots on earth is where an ancient hate has become a present love."
\ A Course In Miracles, Chapter 26, section 9, pp6.